We've all heard about being "cocky and funny," or "confident and funny," or variations thereof. This article is going to start you on a path to meeting more women, the beginning to all your action. It's called Tease to Please.

If you meet more women, you get more experience, you get more confidence, you get laid more, and more options open up to you. If you date only a few women, you tend to cling on to each as if she was your saving grace.

We're going to start you on a program of understanding how to meet women at any time and any place. All you need to do is open your eyes and set aside about 4 minutes (or less) to talk to her, if that. This approach will work ANYWHERE you see a woman, and it doesn't require you to memorize a bunch of secret handshakes or hypnotic trance words.

Ready?

Tease to Please works because it short-circuits her usual defense mechanisms to meeting 'strange' men. You see, every woman comes with her factory-installed defense mechanism against meeting new guys. When a guy approaches her, for any reason, she assumes you're picking up on her. It's what she's gotten used to. All women are by now, and they all have a standard routine of being a little stand-offish to you until you bust past this barrier.

You have 3 seconds from spotting a woman to when you approach her and say something to engage her interest. If you wait longer, your opportunity window closes faster than Ticketmaster can sell out Britney Spears tickets.

In that 3 seconds, you do this:

Look her over, and spot something about her appearance that you can comment on. Start with her shoes, and work your way up. DO NOT choose a physical body trait (like big earlobes, bubble-butt, giant breasts) to comment on. Especially not her overall attractiveness.

You find ONE thing that you can key off of and say something about that will give you and inroad. This is your ANCHOR. Once you've found it, you comment on it to her and smile at her, making strong eye contact.

Example: She's got bright red shoes on. "Wow, those are ... interesting shoes. My sister might like a pair like that. Where'd you get them...?"

Example: She's got a black denim dress on. "My sister likes dresses like that. Where'd you get it...?"

(If you don't have a sister, use 'Aunt' or 'Cousin.' You shouldn't have to lie.)

She'll say something like, "Oh, I got it at Macy's" or something like that. You then nod your head and look at it for a second, as if you can't make up your mind about it. At no time do you ever throw out the usual nauseating male flattery approaches, like "Oh, that dress goes so PERFECTLY with your cheekbones." (There is a time and a place for flattery, and it's NOT in an improvised meeting like this.)

Flattery is the scream for approval of the desperate guy. It's like cotton candy - sweet for a split second, but disappears almost immediately. You want to dangle the PROMISE in front of her first.

You *almost* convey a look of inconvenience, that you went out of your way to comment on her alligator-skin shoes, or her denim skirt. The less she thinks you approached her out of sexual interest, the lower her guard is.

Don't be insulting! Just be mysterious and ambiguous.

(Her next mental question is: "Gee, I wonder if he likes my dress? He didn't say." )

From here, you will bridge into the Tease portion of the conversation, and we'll cover that in the next installment. All there really is left to do is to keep her engaged in the conversation for just a minute or two, show some confidence, and walk away with her phone number.

Now, the typical question I get is "What if there's nothing out of the ordinary about her?"

Simple: You make something up. There is ALWAYS something you can find when you look, and if it's not readily apparent, you make it up. If she's got clothes on (and even here in San Francisco, they still wear clothes) you can find something to pick out. I recommend looking for jewelry, because every woman takes a lot of thought in selecting her jewelry.

For especially attractive women, you need to come on a bit differently, and it pays to use a combination of the negative-hit with this. I even recommend that when you get used to this technique, you use it exclusively on the hotties. When you're comfortable with it, it makes more impact.

You say just one thing, and it's so easy you'll have a tough time forgetting it:

"Your dress/shoes/blouse/jacket/purse (whatever) caught my eye. I like the style, but I think you should try it in black, instead. You'd look better with it in black instead of gray." (Choose the color accordingly.) You nod your head, again meeting her eyes full-on.

Her head will suddenly spin ... "But... but... all the other guys said I looked like a fashion model with this on... What do you mean?"

By using these approaches, you've just flipped her trust switch in her head. You see, she starts out needing to find a reason to be interested and trust YOU - or she quickly categorizes you as a friend (FRIEND = non-lover, a woman you won't be able to sleep with). If you just start talking to her neutrally, she's wondering, "Is he safe?" For all she knows, you're a nut-case looking to pull her into a multi-level marketing scheme. NOW, all of a sudden, she is suddenly told (by your words and actions) that you might not be so interested. You're different - i.e., INTERESTING to her.

For the first week or so, if you're feeling a bit nervous about approaching women, work your way into this slowly. Just use the intro line I gave you, and take it wherever you need. Hell, I'd even recommend you ONLY ask her the first part ("Where'd you get xxxx, my sister might like that ..."), then say "thanks" and walk away. Get used to just chatting up anyone and everyone you meet. Take the pressure off for the first week or two, until you get used to the fact that WOMEN AREN'T GOING TO REJECT YOU LIKE YOU THINK THEY WILL.